Follower of Jesus, before you assume guilt assigned to you by someone else, stop and humbly confer with the Holy Spirit. David prayed this prayer in relation to those who were doing and speaking horrible things over both he and Yahweh: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, And lead me in the everlasting way.” (Psalm 139:23-24) Yahweh will honor your request. If your heart or actions have been wrong, He’s not going to withhold that from you.
However, what Yahweh MAY reveal to you is the person’s pension for doing the same thing to others. How many others have they treated the same way? How many others do they blame for doing them wrong? How many relationships or churches have they abandoned because they were offended? How many other people have they blocked, unfriended, and canceled rather than seeking holy reconciliation and restoration by following Jesus’ prescriptive plan in Matthew 18 for when a brother or sister sins against you?
At some point, the “offended” might have to look in the mirror and realize that THEY are miserable and alone, that THEY are the victimized, not the victim.
I know that as a pastor/counselor, I’ve seen this cycle so many, many times in relationships. I’ve told people for years, “I’ve gone to many churches…” is not an asset to your resume or your reputation! It’s like saying, “I’ve been married many times.” You’re not instilling confidence in your character. I’ve heard the question, “Why does this keep happening to me?” way more times than I’ve heard, “Why do I keep doing this?”
Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the Lord! ~Lamentations 3:40
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