Author: pastordarryl68

Some of you are ending today convinced you’ve figured out your whole life.

Because today hurt.

The conversation didn’t go how you hoped.

The door didn’t open.

The prayer didn’t get answered the way you wanted.

And without realizing it, you let a moment write a meaning it was never authorized to give.

A terrible day does not equal a terrible life.

A hard season does not erase a faithful God.

An awful chapter does not mean the Author has lost the plot.

Scripture is clear: “We see in a mirror dimly” (1 Corinthians 13:12).

Your perspective is limited. God’s is not.

Perspective Is the Battleground

The enemy doesn’t need to destroy your life if he can distort your perspective.

If he can convince you that this is the whole story, you’ll quit early.

If he can convince you that pain equals absence, you’ll stop trusting.

If he can convince you that struggle means failure, you’ll walk away from growth.

But the Bible refuses that logic.

Joseph is betrayed before he is promoted.

David is hunted before he is crowned.

Israel is trapped before the sea splits.

And Jesus?

The day Jesus died looked like loss.

It looked like defeat.

It looked like the end of every promise.

The disciples didn’t call it “Good Friday.”

They called it over.

But heaven was doing something they couldn’t yet see.

What Looks Like Death May Be Deliverance

“Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone. But if it dies, it bears much fruit.” (John 12:24)

The cross looked like death.

It was death.

But it was also obedience.

It was also love.

It was also redemption unfolding in real time.

The worst day in human history became the best news the world has ever known.

So before you label this season as pointless, ask a better question:

What if God is producing something you couldn’t receive any other way?

Your Mess Is Not Wasted

God does not redeem around your mess.

He redeems through it.

Your weakness doesn’t disqualify you.

Your confusion doesn’t surprise Him.

Your pain doesn’t negate His purpose.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.” (Romans 8:28)

Not some things.

Not easy things.

All things.

That includes the chapter you wish you could skip.

A Question Worth Sitting With

Before you close this and move on, sit with this honestly:

What conclusion have you drawn about your life based on a moment God is still working on?

Don’t let a bad day write a false story.

The Author is not finished.

The chapter is not the book.

And the cross proved once and for all—

What looks like death may be the very place life begins.

There is a quiet killer in relationships.

It doesn’t announce itself.

It doesn’t look dramatic at first.

But it spreads. And it destroys.

When someone bows out of a relationship because of an unresolved, personal offense—friendship, marriage, church, family, workplace, team—it acts like a cancer.

And here’s the uncomfortable truth:

That cancer always infects three places.

The person carrying it.

The relationship left unresolved.

And the next relationship they enter.

There are no exceptions.

The Host Always Suffers First

Whether the person is the cause of the offense or the victim of it, unresolved hurt does not stay contained.

It festers.

It grows.

It rewires how they interpret people, motives, and moments.

Bitterness becomes discernment.

Avoidance becomes “wisdom.”

Self-protection becomes justification.

Scripture doesn’t mince words here.

“See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled” (Hebrews 12:15).

Bitterness never stays personal.

It always becomes relational.

Walking Away Is Not Neutral—It’s Unloving

If the other party is the cause of the offense, quietly leaving without biblical confrontation is not maturity.

It’s cowardice.

Jesus didn’t give conflict-resolution as a suggestion.

He gave it as obedience.

“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone” (Matthew 18:15).

Not ghost him.

Not talk to everyone else.

Not leave the community and spiritualize it as “peace.”

Love confronts.

Love speaks.

Love risks discomfort for the sake of healing.

Silence doesn’t protect unity—it poisons it.

The Pattern Always Repeats

Here’s the hardest part to accept.

Until the person carrying the cancer deals with it biblically, boldly, and lovingly, the same outcome will repeat.

New relationship.

Same offense.

Same story.

Same conclusion.

And every time, it will be the other person’s fault.

Paul warned the church about this posture:

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you” (Ephesians 4:31).

Why?

Because unresolved sin always finds a new host.

God Wasn’t Offering Suggestions

When Yahweh speaks about conflict, hurt, abuse, repentance, and forgiveness, He is not crowdsourcing ideas.

He is declaring truth.

Truth for His glory.

Truth for the good of His people.

Truth that heals instead of hides.

Forgiveness is not denial.

Repentance is not weakness.

Confrontation is not unloving.

They are mercy in action.

If you’re carrying an offense today, stop pretending time will heal what obedience won’t.

Go back.

Speak the truth.

Seek repentance where needed.

Extend forgiveness where commanded.

Invite wise, biblical counsel if the situation requires it.

Kill the cancer—before it kills the next relationship.

“Sometimes God doesn’t change your situation because He is on a mission to change your heart.”

There are seasons when we’re praying hard, believing hard, begging God to move something out there… and nothing budges.

The pressure stays.

The problem lingers.

The circumstance refuses to shift.

And if you’re like most people, that’s when frustration starts to rise.

“Lord, why won’t You fix this?”

“Why is this still here?”

“Why am I still here?”

But that quote hits a deeper truth:

Sometimes God isn’t changing the situation because the situation isn’t the target. You are.

God loves you too much to only work on your surroundings.

He wants to work on your heart, because your heart is the steering wheel of your life.

It’s the same thing God did with Israel. He delivered them from Egypt in a single night, but it took forty years to get Egypt out of them. He didn’t delay the Promised Land out of punishment—He delayed it out of preparation.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23

Everything you do flows from what’s happening inside you.

So if God doesn’t shift the external, it’s because He’s forming the internal.

Let’s be real:

• You’re praying for God to remove a difficult person… He’s forming patience.
• You’re begging Him to solve a financial challenge… He’s building stewardship and trust.
• You’re asking Him to calm the storm… He’s teaching you how to stand in faith while the wind still blows.
• You want relief… He wants transformation.

Paul says it like this:

“Suffering produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope.” — Romans 5:3–4

Notice the order.

Hope doesn’t come first.

Character doesn’t come first.

Endurance doesn’t come first.

Pressure comes first.

God uses pressure to form people.

If God hasn’t changed your situation yet, don’t assume He’s absent.

Assume He’s aiming deeper.

Instead of asking only, “Lord, when will this end?” ask,

“Lord, what are You shaping in me through this?”

Because the truth is this:

Your breakthrough may not start when something around you changes.

Your breakthrough may start when something in you changes.

God is on a mission.

Not to make life easier—

But to make your heart stronger, softer, purer, more like Jesus.

And that’s the kind of change that lasts.

Reflection Question:

What situation in your life has God left in place because He’s trying to form something in your heart?

Let Him do the deep work.

Let Him finish the mission.

Some people live to serve others passionately. You can see it in the way they move, the way they love, the way they show up. They serve out of the overflow of the love of Christ in their hearts. And because the love is real, their service is real. Their lives preach a quiet sermon—#LovingOneAnotherWell.

But others… others serve reluctantly and minimally.
You can tell.
It’s half-hearted. Heavy. Mechanical.
And often, it’s rooted not in love but in guilt, obligation, or the quiet craving for attention.

And church, the difference between the two is night and day.

Jesus spoke directly to this in Matthew 6.
“When you give… when you serve… when you pray… do it in secret, and your Father, who sees in secret, will reward you.”

He didn’t just tell us what to do.
He told us how to do it—from a heart that wants God, not applause.

There is a kind of servant that is a joy to stand beside.
They walk into a room and something in the atmosphere lifts.
They don’t drain you; they fill you.
They don’t make serving heavier; they make it lighter.
Their presence pulls people in—“Come serve with me!”—because they carry joy that’s contagious.

And then there’s the other kind.
The one who counts minutes.
And acknowledgements.
And fairness.
And who’s watching.
And whether someone said thank you.
Their service costs everyone around them.
They leave people empty… and sometimes wounded.

And Jesus says plainly:
One is leveraged for the Kingdom eternally.
The other… already has their reward.

God sees it all.
Not just the work of your hands, but the posture of your heart.

So let me ask you the question Jesus pushes us toward.

Which one are you?

Are you serving from overflow—or obligation?
From love—or from guilt?
For Kingdom impact—or for earthly acknowledgement?

The beauty of the gospel is this:
You don’t have to manufacture joy.
You don’t have to pretend.
You don’t have to push yourself into a version of serving that feels fake.

You can ask the Holy Spirit to fill you again.
To restore love.
To purify motives.
To make your service worship.

Because when service comes from worship, even the smallest task becomes holy.

We live in a world that trains our eyes to study giants.

We analyze them.

We measure them.

We replay their threats in our minds like a loop we can’t shut off.

And the more we stare at the giant, the smaller we feel.

David didn’t do that.

He didn’t need to know Goliath’s strength.

He already knew God’s.

And that’s where many of us struggle today—not with the size of the giant, but with our forgetfulness of God’s strength.

The enemy loves to magnify the problem.

God loves to magnify His presence.

When David stood before Goliath, he didn’t rehearse Goliath’s resume. He rehearsed God’s faithfulness.

“The LORD who delivered me… will deliver me…”

(1 Samuel 17:37)

David anchored himself in what God had already done. He remembered the lion. He remembered the bear. He remembered the private victories God gave him in hidden places.

Some of you are staring at a financial Goliath.

Some of you are staring at a health Goliath.

Some of you are staring at a relational Goliath.

Some of you are staring at a sin, a fear, a pressure, a burden that feels bigger than you.

Hear me:

You don’t defeat giants by being big. You defeat giants by knowing God is bigger.

The enemy wants you studying the problem.

God invites you to study His power.

“Be still, and know that I am God.”

(Psalm 46:10)

The command isn’t: Be strong.

The command is: Be still.

Because stillness forces your soul to look up instead of around.

David’s confidence wasn’t arrogance.

It was alignment.

He aligned himself with the covenant, the character, and the presence of God.

And when you know who stands with you, the size of who stands against you doesn’t matter.

Whatever you’re facing today—

it’s not stronger than God.

Not the diagnosis.

Not the bill.

Not the depression.

Not the fear of the future.

Not the shame from the past.

Not the mountain you can’t seem to move.

God’s strength hasn’t changed.

You just need to remember it.

So here’s your call today:

Stop studying the giant. Start remembering your God.

Walk toward what intimidates you with the confidence of who empowers you.

Lift your eyes. Take your stand. Swing your stone.

The battle is the Lord’s.

“For the battle is the LORD’s…”

(1 Samuel 17:47)